I thought this would be a good time to revisit the perfectionist…with new years goals and resolutions several weeks in the making. Remember progress not perfection!
Is the “voice in the head” telling you that you have to do everything perfectly? That you have to be perfect? Is it saying your not good enough (your work, the way you look, etc)? The truth is that perfectionism is not actually bad nor do we want to get rid of it. There are actually good things about being perfectionistic- it can help you succeed in life, accomplish many things, and produce quality “projects”.
When the perfectionist becomes out of balance and takes over is when it becomes problematic. It can cause us to over-do which causes anxiety and burnout. On the flip side it can cause us to never-do/procrastinate, creates paralysis and causes frustration, anger and depression. Both are produced by the fear of failure or being judged “not good enough”.
The key is to take control and choose when you want to use “the perfectionist” and find a balance that works for you. The first step to controlling it is to become aware of it, get to know your perfectionist and make friends with it. Find out what it needs to be perfect and why.