We crave intimacy, connection, and a feeling of belonging, yet many of us build walls in our relationships due to fear of rejection, abandonment, and being “hurt”. We isolate ourselves, start conflict/fights, or act aloof as a coping mechanism to protect ourselves. How do we begin to take down these walls so that we can create the intimate, connected relationships we desire? Watch this video to find out how!
Do the following:
- Watch the video
- Write how you build walls and in what relationships (isolate, cause conflict, act aloof, etc)
- Now write the thought or belief that causes you to have fear and build these walls( example “I will be rejected if I let people get close to me”. Then write an opposite belief. Work with both.
- Catch yourself in the act- when you are isolating, acting aloof, causing conflict, etc. Then act- tell the other person, make a connection with someone, etc.
Remember that building walls has been a coping mechanism to keep you safe, so it may take some time, patience, and gentleness to start to take these walls down. If you would like more support I would love to help you create the intimate relationships you desire or support you to free stress and create balance in another area of your life (health, career). More information (HERE)